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Kay: Speaker, Poet, Cycle breaker, As heard on BBC Sounds

Kay, The First to Heal

Generationalcurses? I broke it.Join me.

Breaking chains, rewriting stories, creating freedom. And a place to share yours, with no name on it.

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    Her story

    The black sheep. The cycle breaker. The woman who dared to question everything her bloodline taught her to accept.

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    Kay singing on stage at a microphone, both hands open

    Public speaker

    On stage, in her words

    Kay speaks about what she lived, and what she had to unlearn. She has spoken as an advocate at a Prince’s Trust event.

    She speaks on

    • Religion and deconstruction
    • Spirituality
    • Healing as an ethnic woman
    • Womanhood, purity culture and sexual liberation
    • Generational cycles and family wounds
    • Love, relationships and attachment
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    Poet

    Verse, and her voice

    Singing for the little girl inside who was told her voice is a sin.

    Kay, on TikTok

    Where to read her

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    Her Poetry playlist, 24 videos as shown on 16 October 2026
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    As heard on

    BBC Radio 4

    Beyond the Feed: Muslim Women and the Dawah Bros

    Young Muslim women answer the online preachers known as the Dawah Bros. Kay is featured in it.

    Programme
    Currently, on Radio 4
    First aired
    15 February 2026
    Length
    28 minutes
    Listen on BBC Sounds

    Her journey

    Generational curse breaking is the hardest path.

    Unlearning everything you were taught and breaking free from it.

    Tell yours

    In Kay’s own words from TikTok, as a draft. Kay chooses the moments that stay.

    1. Twenty-one years veiled
      My hair is not a sin, neither is my body nor my curves. I am whole as I am.
    2. Questioning
      If something makes you feel discomfort, small or uneasy in your soul and body, it’s the very thing you should be questioning.
    3. Taking it back
      Our autonomy as ethnic girls has been controlled from young. Your adulthood should consist of taking that back audaciously.
    4. Speaking
      A woman’s silence is society’s biggest weapon. I will never stop speaking, I was born for this path.
    5. Now
      May the cycle end with us.

    What we talk about

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    Poetry, talks, workshops and conversations about breaking generational cycles, faith on your own terms and taking your voice back.

    • Poetry performanceHer poems, read live.
    • Speaking or a keynoteWhat she lived, and what she had to unlearn.
    • WorkshopsA group, a room, and the work of breaking cycles.
    • Panels, podcasts and mediaAs on BBC Sounds.

    She speaks on

    • Religion and deconstruction
    • Spirituality
    • Healing as an ethnic woman
    • Womanhood, purity culture and sexual liberation
    • Generational cycles and family wounds
    • Love, relationships and attachment

    Heard on BBC Radio 4, “Beyond the Feed: Muslim Women and the Dawah Bros”, first aired 15 February 2026. Spoke at a Prince’s Trust event, as an advocate.

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